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Giản thể: 请客吃饭
一个中国朋友说，她最近认识了一个美国男生，他们在一起吃了好几次饭，但每次都是AA制。她觉得这个美国男生太小气了，从来不主动买单。我听了哈哈大笑，告诉她请客吃饭这件事在中西方的文化中是有差异的。
中国人一般认为请客是一件很有面子的事，而“面子”对中国人来说非常重要。有句俗语叫“打肿脸充胖子”，意思是因为要面子，就做一些超出自己能力的事。而在中国，如果一男一女一起吃饭，人们通常认为男人应该来买单。一方面是因为男人要维护自己的面子，不能显得太小气。另一方面是因为在中国的传统思想中，女人是较弱的一方，应该被男人呵护和照顾。如果这两个人是情侣，除非女人坚持要买单，其他情况都由男人买单。
虽然现在一些年轻人接受了西方的观念，吃饭时喜欢AA制，但总的来说，AA制在中国被认为是一种缺乏人情味儿的表现。中国人认为好朋友之间，不能太计较金钱。但是有时候，一起吃饭的人比较多，这顿饭的花费又比较高，很可能大家买单的时候就会平摊。另外，中国人在和朋友吃完饭后，会抢着买单。可能有的人并不是真的愿意买单，只是为了要面子，或者出于礼貌和客气，所以做出想请客的样子，有时候甚至为了谁买单产生争论。这是个很有趣的文化现象。
中国人讲究礼尚往来，意思是互相送礼才能够长久地交往下去。没有人愿意每次都买单。如果这顿饭你的朋友请客，那下次你就要主动要求买单。好了，关于请客吃饭，今天就先介绍这些。大家如果有什么问题，欢迎在网站留言讨论！
Phồn thể: 請客吃飯
一個中國朋友說，她最近認識了一個美國男生，他們在一起吃了好幾次飯，但每次都是AA制。她覺得這個美國男生太小氣了，從來不主動買單。我聽了哈哈大笑，告訴她請客吃飯這件事在中西方的文化中是有差異的。
中國人一般認為請客是一件很有面子的事，而“面子”對中國人來說非常重要。有句俗語叫“打腫臉充胖子”，意思是因為要面子，就做一些超出自己能力的事。而在中國，如果一男一女一起吃飯，人們通常認為男人應該來買單。一方面是因為男人要維護自己的面子，不能顯得太小氣。另一方面是因為在中國的傳統思想中，女人是較弱的一方，應該被男人呵護和照顧。如果這兩個人是情侶，除非女人堅持要買單，其他情況都由男人買單。
雖然現在一些年輕人接受了西方的觀念，吃飯時喜歡AA制，但總的來說，AA制在中國被認為是一種缺乏人情味兒的表現。中國人認為好朋友之間，不能太計較金錢。但是有時候，一起吃飯的人比較多，這頓飯的花費又比較高，很可能大家買單的時候就會平攤。另外，中國人在和朋友吃完飯後，會搶著買單。可能有的人並不是真的願意買單，只是為了要面子，或者出於禮貌和客氣，所以做出想請客的樣子，有時候甚至為了誰買單產生爭論。這是個很有趣的文化現象。
中國人講究禮尚往來，意思是互相送禮才能夠長久地交往下去。沒有人願意每次都買單。如果這頓飯你的朋友請客，那下次你就要主動要求買單。好了，關於請客吃飯，今天就先介紹這些。大家如果有什麼問題，歡迎在網站留言討論！
Pinyin: Qǐngkè chīfàn
Yīgè zhōngguó péngyǒu shuō, tā zuìjìn rènshìle yīgè měiguó nánshēng, tāmen zài yīqǐ chīle hǎojǐ cì fàn, dàn měi cì dōu shì AA zhì. Tā juédé zhège měiguó nánshēng tài xiǎoqìle, cónglái bu zhǔdòng mǎidān. Wǒ tīngle hāhā dà xiào, gàosù tā qǐngkè chīfàn zhè jiàn shì zài zhōng xīfāng de wénhuà zhōng shì yǒu chāyì de.
Zhōngguó rén yībān rènwéi qǐngkè shì yī jiàn hěn yǒu miànzi de shì, ér “miànzi” duì zhōngguó rén lái shuō fēicháng zhòngyào. Yǒu jù súyǔ jiào “dǎ zhǒng liǎn chōng pàngzi”, yìsi shì yīnwèi yàomiànzi, jiù zuò yīxiē chāochū zìjǐ nénglì de shì. Ér zài zhōngguó, rúguǒ yīnán yī nǚ yīqǐ chīfàn, rénmen tōngcháng rènwéi nánrén yīnggāi lái mǎidān. Yīfāngmiàn shì yīnwèi nánrén yào wéihù zìjǐ de miànzi, bùnéng xiǎndé tài xiǎoqì. Lìng yī fāngmiàn shì yīnwèi zài zhōngguó de chuántǒng sīxiǎng zhōng, nǚrén shì jiào ruò de yī fāng, yīnggāi bèi nánrén hēhù hé zhàogù. Rúguǒ zhè liǎng gèrén shì qínglǚ, chúfēi nǚrén jiānchí yāo mǎidān, qítā qíngkuàng dōu yóu nánrén mǎidān.
Suīrán xiànzài yīxiē niánqīng rén jiēshòule xīfāng de guānniàn, chīfàn shí xǐhuān AA zhì, dàn zǒng de lái shuō,AA zhì zài zhōngguó bèi rènwéi shì yī zhǒng quēfá rénqíngwèi er de biǎoxiàn. Zhōngguó rén rènwéi hǎo péngyǒu zhī jiān, bùnéng tài jìjiào jīnqián. Dànshì yǒu shíhòu, yīqǐ chīfàn de rén bǐjiào duō, zhè dùn fàn de huāfèi yòu bǐjiào gāo, hěn kěnéng dàjiā mǎidān de shíhòu jiù huì píng tān. Lìngwài, zhōngguó rén zài hé péngyǒu chī wán fàn hòu, huì qiǎngzhe mǎidān. Kěnéng yǒu de rén bìng bùshì zhēn de yuànyì mǎidān, zhǐshì wèile yàomiànzi, huòzhě chū yú lǐmào hé kèqì, suǒyǐ zuò chū xiǎng qǐngkè de yàngzi, yǒu shíhòu shènzhì wèile shéi mǎidān chǎnshēng zhēnglùn. Zhè shìgè hěn yǒuqù de wénhuà xiànxiàng.
Zhōngguó rén jiǎngjiù lǐshàngwǎnglái, yìsi shì hùxiāng sònglǐ cái nénggòu chángjiǔ de jiāowǎng xiàqù. Méiyǒu rén yuànyì měi cì dōu mǎidān. Rúguǒ zhè dùn fàn nǐ de péngyǒu qǐngkè, nà xià cì nǐ jiù yào zhǔdòng yāoqiú mǎidān. Hǎole, guānyú qǐngkè chīfàn, jīntiān jiù xiān jièshào zhèxiē. Dàjiā rúguǒ yǒu shenme wèntí, huānyíng zài wǎngzhàn liúyán tǎolùn!
English: Treating a guest to dinner
A Chinese friend said she recently met an American man and they have eaten together quite a few times, but they split the bill every time. She thinks this American man is too stingy, never taking the initiative to pay the bill. I roared with laughter when I heard this, and told her that treating a guest to dinner in Chinese and Western cultures are different matters.
Chinese people generally believe that treating a guest to dinner is a face-gaining/saving event, and to Chinese people ‘face’ is very important. There’s a commonly used sentence saying “打肿脸充胖子‘’ (dǎzhǒng liǎn chōng pàngzi, lit. ‘beat one’s face until swollen and pretend to be fat’), meaning ‘to do things that exceed one’s capabilities on account of face’. And in China, if a guy and a girl eat together, people generally believe that the man should pay. In one regard it’s because men must maintain their reputation, and can’t appear too stingy. Another aspect is because in traditional Chinese thinking, women are the weaker party and should be cherished, protected, and taken care of by men. If these two people are sweethearts, unless the girl insists on paying the bill, in all other situations it is up to the man to pay the bill.
Although nowadays some young people have accepted western ideas and when eating out like to split the bill, on the whole splitting the bill is believed to be an indicator of a lack of feeling in China. The Chinese believe that amongst good friends, you can’t discuss money too much. But sometimes when there are quite a lot of people eating together, and the cost of the meal is quite high, it is very likely that the bill will be shared equally. Besides, after a Chinese person has finished eating with their friend, they will scramble to pay the bill. It may be that some people don’t really wish to pay the bill, it’s only for the sake of saving face, or stemming from manners and politeness, so they act like they want to pay, sometimes even to the point of creating an argument over who will pay. This is a very interesting cultural phenomenon.
Chinese are particular about ‘礼尚往来’ (lǐshàngwǎnglái), which means only if presents are mutually given will contacts be able to last for a long time. Nobody wishes to pay the bill every time. If your friend pays for your meal this time, then next time you should take the initiative to pay. Ok, with regard to treating people to dinner, today we’ll just introduce these few first. If anyone has any problems, feel welcome to leave a message and discuss online.
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