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Giản thể: 小心！中国人会谈论的话题
刚到中国的外国人，可能会对中国朋友之间谈论的一些话题感到尴尬，甚至觉得被侵犯了隐私。下面几个问题，你的中国朋友有没有问过你呢？
1、你这件衣服真好看，什么牌子的？多少钱买的？
2、你住的那个地方房租很贵吧？多少钱一个月？
3、听说外国人在中国的月薪很高，你的月薪是多少？
4、一上午你已经去了五次厕所了，是拉肚子了吗？
5、你最近是不是胖了？要多运动少吃油腻的食物哦！
上面这五个问题，是我的外国朋友曾经跟我抱怨过，他在中国被问到的尴尬问题。前三个是和金钱有关的，后两个是和健康有关的。与欧美国家的人相比，中国人普遍对隐私的意识比较弱，问这些问题的时候并没有恶意，只是一种聊天的方式。好朋友之间的聊天就更加随意了。对于前三个问题，你可以只说个大约的数字，一般对方就不会再追问下去。第四个问题很有趣，在中国，人们会和比较亲近的朋友或者亲人说自己拉肚子了，并且不会感到不好意思。第五个问题一般也发生在好朋友之间，对方出于关心，提醒你注意体重变化，听到之后，你只要微笑着说“好知道了”就可以啦。
另外，对外国朋友们来说，除了金钱和健康，有关政治、宗教、种族的话题，一般也比较敏感。但可能一些中国人不明白这一点，问你一些相关的问题。如果你真的不愿意讨论，就可以委婉地表达不感兴趣，相信你的中国朋友都可以理解。你还被问到过其他尴尬的问题吗？欢迎在慢速中文网站留言，与我们分享讨论。
Phồn thể: 小心！中國人會談論的話題
剛到中國的外國人，可能會對中國朋友之間談論的一些話題感到尷尬，甚至覺得被侵犯了隱私。下面幾個問題，你的中國朋友有沒有問過你呢？
1、你這件衣服真好看，什麼牌子的？多少錢買的？
2、你住的那個地方房租很貴吧？多少錢一個月？
3、聽說外國人在中國的月薪很高，你的月薪是多少？
4、一上午你已經去了五次廁所了，是拉肚子了嗎？
5、你最近是不是胖了？要多運動少吃油膩的食物哦！
上面這五個問題，是我的外國朋友曾經跟我抱怨過，他在中國被問到的尷尬問題。前三個是和金錢有關的，後兩個是和健康有關的。與歐美國家的人相比，中國人普遍對隱私的意識比較弱，問這些問題的時候並沒有惡意，只是一種聊天的方式。好朋友之間的聊天就更加隨意了。對於前三個問題，你可以只說個大約的數字，一般對方就不會再追問下去。第四個問題很有趣，在中國，人們會和比較親近的朋友或者親人說自己拉肚子了，並且不會感到不好意思。第五個問題一般也發生在好朋友之間，對方出於關心，提醒你注意體重變化，聽到之後，你只要微笑著說“好知道了”就可以啦。
另外，對外國朋友們來說，除了金錢和健康，有關政治、宗教、種族的話題，一般也比較敏感。但可能一些中國人不明白這一點，問你一些相關的問題。如果你真的不願意討論，就可以委婉地表達不感興趣，相信你的中國朋友都可以理解。你還被問到過其他尷尬的問題嗎？歡迎在慢速中文網站留言，與我們分享討論。
Pinyin: Xiǎoxīn! Zhōngguó rén huì tánlùn de huàtí
Gāng dào zhōngguó de wàiguó rén, kěnéng huì duì zhōngguó péngyǒu zhī jiān tánlùn de yīxiē huàtí gǎndào gāngà, shènzhì juédé bèi qīnfànle yǐnsī. Xiàmiàn jǐ gè wèntí, nǐ de zhōngguó péngyǒu yǒu méiyǒu wènguò nǐ ne?
1, Nǐ zhè jiàn yīfú zhēn hǎokàn, shénme páizi de? Duōshǎo qián mǎi de?
2, Nǐ zhù de nàgè dìfāng fángzū hěn guì ba? Duōshǎo qián yīgè yuè?
3, Tīng shuō wàiguó rén zài zhōngguó de yuèxīn hěn gāo, nǐ de yuèxīn shì duōshǎo?
4, Yī shàngwǔ nǐ yǐjīng qùle wǔ cì cèsuǒle, shì lādùzile ma?
5, Nǐ zuìjìn shì bùshì pàngle? Yào duō yùndòng shǎo chī yóunì de shíwù ó!
Shàngmiàn zhè wǔ gè wèntí, shì wǒ de wàiguó péngyǒu céngjīng gēn wǒ bàoyuànguò, tā zài zhōngguó bèi wèn dào de gāngà wèntí. Qián sān gè shì hé jīnqián yǒuguān de, hòu liǎng gè shì hé jiànkāng yǒuguān de. Yǔ ōuměi guójiā de rén xiāng bǐ, zhōngguó rén pǔbiàn duì yǐnsī de yìshí bǐjiào ruò, wèn zhèxiē wèntí de shíhòu bìng méiyǒu èyì, zhǐshì yī zhǒng liáotiān de fāngshì. Hǎo péngyǒu zhī jiān de liáotiān jiù gèngjiā suíyìle. Duìyú qián sān gè wèntí, nǐ kěyǐ zhǐ shuō gè dàyuē de shùzì, yībān duìfāng jiù bù huì zài zhuīwèn xiàqù. Dì sì gè wèntí hěn yǒuqù, zài zhōngguó, rénmen huì hé bǐjiào qīnjìn de péngyǒu huòzhě qīnrén shuō zìjǐ lādùzile, bìngqiě bù huì gǎndào bù hǎoyìsi. Dì wǔ gè wèntí yībān yě fāshēng zài hǎo péngyǒu zhī jiān, duìfāng chū yú guānxīn, tíxǐng nǐ zhùyì tǐzhòng biànhuà, tīng dào zhīhòu, nǐ zhǐyào wéixiàozhe shuō “hǎo zhīdàole” jiù kěyǐ la.
Lìngwài, duì wàiguó péngyǒumen lái shuō, chúle jīnqián hé jiànkāng, yǒuguān zhèngzhì, zōngjiào, zhǒngzú de huàtí, yībān yě bǐjiào mǐngǎn. Dàn kěnéng yīxiē zhōngguó rén bù míngbái zhè yīdiǎn, wèn nǐ yīxiē xiāngguān de wèntí. Rúguǒ nǐ zhēn de bù yuànyì tǎolùn, jiù kěyǐ wěiwǎn de biǎodá bùgǎn xìngqù, xiāngxìn nǐ de zhōngguó péngyǒu dōu kěyǐ lǐjiě. Nǐ hái bèi wèn dàoguò qítā gāngà de wèntí ma? Huānyíng zài màn sù zhōngwén wǎngzhàn liúyán, yǔ wǒmen fēnxiǎng tǎolùn.
English: Some issues Chinese people don’t like
Foreigners that have just arrived in China will possibly discuss some topics with their Chinese friends that they feel embarrassed about and they might even feel that their privacy has been violated. Have your Chinese friends asked you any of the questions below?
1. This item of clothing of yours looks good, what brand is it? How much did it cost?
2. Is the rent expensive where you are living? How much a month?
3. I’ve heard that the pay of foreigners in China is quite high, how much do you make a month?
4. In one morning you’ve already been to the toilet five times. do you have the trots?
5. Have you put on weight recently? You should do more exercise and eat less fatty food.
The five questions above are embarrassing questions which foreign friends of mine have complained about and which they’ve been asked in China. The first three are to do with money and the last three are to do with health. In comparison with people from Europe and America the Chinese sense of privacy is relatively weak so there are no bad intentions in such questions; it’s just a way of making conversation. Conversations between friends are even more as one pleases (1). In answer to the first three questions you could just answer with some approximate figure; in general the other person won’t go into it any further. The fourth question is very interesting. In China people will tell relatively close friends and relatives that they have diarrhea (2) and won’t feel any embarrassment about it at all. The fifth question also occurs mainly between friends and stems from concern from the one party calling attention to change in body weight. After hearing it you just need to say ‘Ok, thanks for letting me know.’ (3) with a smile and that will be it.
In addition, for our foreign friends, apart from money and health, questions about politics and religion and the like and also relatively sensitive but perhaps some Chinese don’t understand this and will ask you some related questions. If you really are unwilling to discuss such questions you can tactfully convey lack of interest and I believe your Chinese friend will be understanding. Have you also been asked other embarrassing questions? You’re welcome to leave a comment on the ‘Slow Chinese’ website to share and discuss it with us.
1. 随意 and 随便 seem to be quite difficult to translate well. They are used a lot in Chinese and there doesn’t seem to be an easy English equivalent. It’s worth taking note of them as they occur and get a feel for them.
2. For any Chinese that might be reading… talking with friends we would use an expression such as ‘I have the runs’, ‘I have the trots’ – but this is very colloquial.
3. And interesting phrase – 知道了. The dictionary gives ‘ok; I’ve got it’. A pretty versatile phrase.
– Rober Budzul (robert@budzul.com)
– and Zak Gray (zak_lives@hotmail.com)
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